It's nothing new. We've all heard it before. "You cant judge a book by its cover" and "be careful what you say, everyone is fighting their own battles, and we don't know what others are facing..." and many more quotes and saying that tell us that everyone is going through something and we don't know, so we cant judge, we cant take offense, because we don't know what they may be going through. And what may be easy to you may be a challenge for them and vice versa so we cannot look down on anyone for what they are going through.
Now this makes perfect sense to me because I know I certainly have trials and I have met some people in my life that have had their fair share of struggles. It's just something that I have always understood, however sometimes it isn't always the first thing on my mind, and because of that, I got my reminder this week. I have been feeling really upset about the way someone very very important to me has been ignoring me and it really hurt. And I spent time feeling sorry for myself, feeling angry at this person, and feeling lost because I wasn't sure what to do next. Well we finally talked and come to find out this person has really been struggling with a lot of things and has been having a really hard time (which like I said, I definitely understand!) When we talked I realized that it had never crossed my mind that the way I was being treated actually had nothing to do with me,and what a horrible friend I had been. I was so concerned about this friendship and not wanting to lose it and I couldn't see past that. (Believe me, I know how conceded this sounds!) I felt awful, and later on when this person apologized to me, I felt horrible because I should have been the one with the apology. And it opened my eyes to this...no matter how many times we hear it we have to remember that we don't have the whole picture. We don't know what everyone is going through. So whether it is a good friend, a family member, or a total stranger, treat everyone with an open heart and an eternal perspective; the way you would want to be treated when going through a hard time, cause you never know when the roles will be reversed!
Now this makes perfect sense to me because I know I certainly have trials and I have met some people in my life that have had their fair share of struggles. It's just something that I have always understood, however sometimes it isn't always the first thing on my mind, and because of that, I got my reminder this week. I have been feeling really upset about the way someone very very important to me has been ignoring me and it really hurt. And I spent time feeling sorry for myself, feeling angry at this person, and feeling lost because I wasn't sure what to do next. Well we finally talked and come to find out this person has really been struggling with a lot of things and has been having a really hard time (which like I said, I definitely understand!) When we talked I realized that it had never crossed my mind that the way I was being treated actually had nothing to do with me,and what a horrible friend I had been. I was so concerned about this friendship and not wanting to lose it and I couldn't see past that. (Believe me, I know how conceded this sounds!) I felt awful, and later on when this person apologized to me, I felt horrible because I should have been the one with the apology. And it opened my eyes to this...no matter how many times we hear it we have to remember that we don't have the whole picture. We don't know what everyone is going through. So whether it is a good friend, a family member, or a total stranger, treat everyone with an open heart and an eternal perspective; the way you would want to be treated when going through a hard time, cause you never know when the roles will be reversed!
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